Hello folks,
We are getting closer to VBS time! In the mean time here is the fifth installment of an eight part series discussing what it takes to give hope to kids in CC.
Words
My job involves customer service so I get paid to talk nice and be patient with people. The other day at work a co-worker next to me overheard a phone conversation I had with one of my daughters. After I hung up he asked who I was talking to. I told him that it was my daughter to which he replied, "you talk a lot nicer to the people that come in here." Ouch! That hurt to hear but he was right! It is easy for parents to let their guard down and say things that hurt the very ones they love the most.
I have been in line at stores and fast food places and witnessed parents get really tense with their kids and talk very harsh to them because they are in a hurry. I have done the same thing and I want God to check me when I get snippy with my kids and wife. In our fast paced lives it is also easy to come home frazzled having very little patience for kids asking questions or trying to show you something they made that day.
One of the most devastating things we can do to kids is treat them with contempt. The rolling of the eyes or angry scowls communicate that they are an annoyance instead of a gift from God. When words are added that say to the child they are dumb, a pain, driving us nuts, etc., it leaves a child in a lurch because they want to know they are loved and they need affirming attention but the parent is perceived as unapproachable. Unfortunately, impatient contemptuous actions and words leave a child with a unfulfilled desire to be affirmed for just being themselves.
If this happens in Christian homes just imagine what it is like for non-
christian working single parents, blended families,and in homes where drugs and alcohol are abused. Words in emotionally stressed atmospheres can scar a child's soul very deeply.
This is where we come in! During VBS we have a chance to open our mouths and affirm children. For some it may be one of the few times in their short lives where they hear an encouraging word. It is a struggle when we volunteers are trying to deal with 5 or 6 rowdy kids at the Grove and it is hot and sticky too. Most volunteers have worked that day and are making a sacrifice to be there and that adds to the stress. Add in kids talking, running around and wrestling it is hard to say anything other than, "Sit down and be quite!"
But we are not alone as we minister to the kids. We have the Holy Spirit and we need to pray now for ourselves and other volunteers to be led of the Spirit:
Galatians 5
16 So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves. 17 The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants... 19 When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: ...hostility, quarreling,...outbursts of anger,...
22 But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!
24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. 25 Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives.
Let us ask God to guide us and prepare us for VBS infused with His Spirit. Our words could be a catalyst that changes a child's life. I don't know the exact number, but I have heard it takes multiple times more kind/encouraging/affirming words to offset just one negative word. Let us prayerfully strive to have spirit filled words that give life and hope during VBS!:
Proverbs 16:24
24 Kind words are like honey—
sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.
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